Good sense and discretion make a man slow to anger, And it is his honor and glory to overlook a transgression or an offense [without seeking revenge and harboring resentment].”
Proverbs 19:11 AMP
Whewww!! Sistahhhh, can I tell you about offense, and how that not so friendly feeling tries to take a hold of you!
Offense- Annoyance resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one‘s standard or principles.
Offense is one of the hardest feelings to shake once you allow it to get to you. Offense comes in the form of many ways. Two of them being something being said to us or something being done to us. At times someone can say or do things and it may not be intentional and we take offense to it. If we can be honest, some of us can be very sensitive and take things personally. I had to learn that we can’t take everything to heart. If we do, we won’t be very enjoyable people to be around, and we won’t have many friendships, which can lead to other issues such as loneliness and depression.
Never in a relationship or friendship do we want to make others feel as though they have to walk on egg shells around us. If were always offended, this is the time to take a good look in the mirror and ask ourselves the hard question. Why do we get so easily offended?
You may find out that there is something that may have happened to you in the past that may still be triggering you and now you’re filtering everything through the eyes of what you have experienced and if that’s the case, then sister we got to heal. Life is great once we learn how to make things roll off or even learn how to cope with offenses and not make it ruffle our feathers.
•••••••WAYS TO HEAL•••••••
1) Acknowledge that you are offended.
• First step to recovery is acknowledging that you have a problem.
• You can’t heal what you hide
2) Find the root of the offense.
• Something that happened in childhood or in the past.
• Someone saying something negative to you. (Ex. You will never be anything, you‘re stupid or you’re ugly)
3) Change your mind about the offense and the offender.
• Learn not to give it any attention by not dwelling on what was said.
• Know the truth about who you are and if what is said isn’t true about you, Nevermind it!
• Forgive them, chances are they weren’t aware of the damage that they caused.
Lets heal sis, being always offended causes us not to love people the way we should. Remember sis you can’t be beautiful and offended at the same time. This could be hard to shake but I know someone who can help. his name is Jesus. He can truly help you have peace about the situation. Try him today!
“He who covers and forgives an offense seeks love, But he who repeats or gossips about a matter separates intimate friends.”
Proverbs 17:9 AMP